On occasions I have noticed things that I thought could be done a better way, perhaps improved with a slight change, maybe to simplify it. I never considered that advice, but maybe it was. In a previous writing I did give what I considered real advice, and I still think it’s good advice. It was directed to my children.

There was a time in our lives when all my children managed with some difficulty to get together at least once a year. Sometimes it was at a campground and sometimes at a resort. My late wife Dorothy made it possible through her planning and persistence. She loved my offspring as if they were her own flesh and blood. She saw the benefit of such gatherings and kept at the job until it happened. Seldom did all of the family get together, but the loss belonged to the absentees. The rest of the gang was well served. We had great times together and all went home refreshed. We remembered a walk in the woods to see a waterfall, the meeting of a bear on the trail, the sights in a resort area, games and conversation around the supper table. They were all fond memories.

Today it is easy to grab the cell phone and speak to a sibling or tune in to a “face book” or send an email with pictures or not. These are mighty convenient and easy things, but there is nothing that can take the place of eye-to-eye contact or the touch of a hand.

Our last two family reunions were bittersweet affairs, both brought about by death in the family, first my sister Margaret, then a month later, my daughter Susanna. Attendance at both funerals was excellent, and I might add with little planning ahead. Despite the reason for the gatherings to say sad goodbyes and to celebrate the lives of loved ones, there was joy in the reunions, of simply being together.

I gave my best advice to my children a few years ago to continue their annual reunions, that electronic communication is not enough. I realize that in Dorothy’s absence it will be more difficult than it was with her help but it can happen.

To make it happen it must be high on the priorities list. All must participate. I suggest that before the end of a reunion, plans however tentative be made for the next year. Of course each should take turns at being in charge.

I believe the advice I gave my children a few years ago was good sound advice and I would give it again. In fact I still hope they act on it.